Wednesday, January 24, 2018

5 Types of People to Avoid & 5 Types of People to Surround Yourself With!


Jim Rohn is famous for saying, "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with".

You become what you surround yourself with. It's true!

To succeed in life there are certain types of people you want to avoid, and other types you want to proactively seek out and hang with!

Do a little stocktake right now, using the lists below to check yourself...

5 Types of People to Avoid:

While we consciously choose to love and respect ALL people, even those who would purposely or accidentally drag us down, we can love them from a distance! Or at least deflect the unhelpful stuff they throw our way...

1. The Haters - that says it all. They hate on you and what you do. They say it in words or fire it at you with a look on their face. It is NOT about you. It's that they have such pain inside themselves, and it bursts out in your direction. Be sure to see their hate for what it is, and deflect it promptly!

2. The Sideline Judges - they judge you and may come across as quite well meaning, thriving on sharing their opinion about your choices. Yet, they sit on the sidelines of life, and have no skin in the game themselves! Remember what Theodore Roosevelt famously said... "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly..."

3. The Comrade Who Knows Best - like you, they are learning, growing and committed to being their best. But... unfortunately, they think they have it all figured out and keep telling you what you should do! As you know, we're all very unique and it's different strokes for different folks. So what works for them may not be what you need. Be grateful for their desire to help, but stay true to your own intuition.

4. The Old-School Thinkers - rigid in their world view, they think there is only one way to live and if you're not on that path, watch out! Whether it's that you "should" have one career and do it for your whole life, or whether it's that you should buy a house with a picket fence and have children, or whether it's that you should put your money only in certain investments... they are not open minded and cannot bear to see you free and making soul-led choices that are non-traditional or outside the "system" of society. Bless them, because they try to protect you, genuinely thinking it's safer if you adhere to what everyone has always done. But remember... if everyone jumped off a cliff, would you follow? Of course not! Make your own choices.

5. The Sympathizers - it's not that you need to avoid these lovely people, as much as avoid getting sucked into a pity party they host for you! When you face a challenge, they will show sympathy, cry with you, agree with your pain, agree with your issues, so that you don't feel alone. BUT... sympathy is not what you need. You want empathy, quickly followed by EMPOWERMENT. Which is why, you need...

5 Types of People to Surround Yourself With:

1. Listeners - They just listen. No judgement, no projection of their own personal views onto you. Just a listening space where you can freely express, being seen and heard. WOW... how awesome it feels when you meet a listener!

2. Acceptors - They accept you, just as you are. In the moments when you're a hot mess and making mistakes, they accept you. In the moments when you're flying high and rocking it out, they accept you. Human beings CRAVE acceptance. We love these people!

3. Seers of Truth - These people look beyond the surface level of life and beyond the surface level of you. They see the truth. They know the powerful soul you are. They know that you have what it takes to overcome ALL things and achieve your goals. They know what is meaningful and important, and what is not. And because of this, YOU will see truth because you are surrounded by them. And if you ever forget, they will point it out to you. True sight is priceless!

4. Way Makers - They light the path ahead. They go first, and check out what it's like to explore new territory. And, they are more than happy to share with you about the ins and outs, in raw honest detail. From them you learn, you receive inspiration and motivation, you see what is possible, and you go there too!

5. Empowerers - These love filled people thrive on lifting you up. Filled with positivity, always there to offer a motivating word or refreshing new perspective, they actively choose to see life differently to most people. They LOOK for the openings for personal power and the best way forward, for themselves and for everyone around them.

If you think you're the only one needing more good people in your life, you're not!

We see so many awesome people like you who are having to deal with other people's negativity, and lacking exposure to listeners, acceptors, seers of truth, way makers and empowerers.

Source: EvolveHQ'

Ellie Lavender 

Certified Feng Shui Practitioner & Interior Designer
Vegan Mediterranean Personal Chef & Culinary Instructor
Lavender Design + Cuisine  

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Saturday, January 6, 2018

Meet Chef Ellie Lavender!


Greetings and Welcome to my culinary world!

I’m a self-taught vegan Mediterranean chef, culinary & wine pairing instructor and artisan chocolatier. 

Everyone has a story and mine is rather inspirational and worth telling. My wonderful journey to the creation of Lavender Design + Cuisine began in 2011 when I decided to leave a highly successful career in high tech sales spanning 20 years. It was time to pursue my lifelong dream. Since then, it has been an amazing and rewarding experience. I'm immeasurably grateful to do what I love thanks to my wonderful clients and students. They are the center of my work and a great inspiration. Click here to view their beautiful testimonials! 

I offer the following services throughout Santa Cruz County and the South Bay:

1) Personal Chef Services featuring the preparation of organic, seasonal, local and sustainable Vegan/ Vegetarian Mediterranean gourmet cuisine. I create healthy and delicious meals tailored to your personal taste right in your kitchen. 

2) Private In-Home Vegan/Vegetarian Mediterranean Cooking and Wine Pairing Class for individuals, Couples and Groups (minimum 5 people, maximum 10), conducted in your very own kitchen consists of a 4-course meal: appetizer, entrĂ©e, salad and dessert, plus wine to pair with foods you made. I'll come to your home to guide you and your group, through a delightful afternoon or evening of cooking right in your very own kitchen. 
The 4-hour class fee is $150.00 p/p and includes all organic ingredients plus a bottle of wine for each student. However, if you assemble a group of 6 or more, your cost as the host will be waived. And, you also get a lovely bottle of wine!

3) Chocolate Making Event for birthday parties for children 10 years and up (minimum 5 children, maximum 10). In this very hands-on event at your venue, children will make chocolate arts, which are organic, vegan and sugar free. They’ll get to try their chocolate arts and even gift wrap some of their lovely handmade creations in exquisite packaging provided by me. Parties start at just $175.00 for 5 children (each additional child is $35), which includes everything necessary to have a super fun time that is ideal for photo and video memories.

4) Culinary Team Building-Corporate Cooking Classes: Hands-on interactive culinary team building classes are a fun and effective way to create employee bonding experiences. The classes encourage teamwork, enhance communication, and foster camaraderie all in a delightful and delicious environment. I will custom design a menu to accommodate your goals and budget. 

5) Chocolate and Wine Pairing Events at local wineries open to the public in addition to exclusive cooking and wine pairing classes for wine club members eager for new experiences. These are fabulous occasions for chocolate enthusiasts, foodies and wine lovers to experience a delightful afternoon or evening sipping great wine while enjoying delicious gourmet cuisine.

6) Vegan/Vegetarian Mediterranean Catering for all occasions (up to 50 people).

Please contact me to learn more about any of these featured services and to take the first step. 

Chef Ellie Lavender 
Vegan Mediterranean Personal Chef
Culinary & Wine Pairing Instructor
Lavender Design + Cuisine

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Monday, January 1, 2018

Promote Positive Energy in Your Life!


Magical plants, flowers and herbs that promote positive energy (just a few):

Lavender flowers have many magical properties! Lavender aromatherapy and bath promote emotional well-being and helps with headache, insomnia, anxiety and depression. Additionally, Culinary lavender flowers whether crushed, sprinkled, ground or infused, this flavor-intense herb will indulge your senses, tantalize your taste buds and please your palette.

Rosemary is one of the best plants for purification in the home. Rosemary not only instills inner peace but also repels negative energies. A rosemary bush by your front door is a wonderful way to keep negativity outside.

Lily is believed to be a multi-functional plant. It helps clear out any spiritual, emotional and physical issues. Placed in the bedroom, lilies promote serenity and tranquility for restful sleep.

Sage is a powerful, magical plant that opens higher states of consciousness and communication. Burning sage has incredible cleansing qualitiesIt promotes a sense of positivity in your home.

Basil attracts positive vibrations to the environment. Basil is one of the most amazing plants to keep in your home, not just for cooking, but for its ability to heal irritations and cleansing toxins.

Oregano is a wonderful herb to have in your home. Its fragrance induces happiness, peace, love, and spiritual cleansing. Oregano is perfect for clearing out negativity and welcoming good energy into your home.

Rose is the symbol for love around the world. This beautiful flower holds a tremendous energetic disposition to bring love into your heart. Keep them thriving in your garden and get rid of dead ones quickly! 

Money Plant has many names. It is referred to as silver vine, golden pathos and hunter’s robe to name a few. According to Feng Shui its energy produces a flow that attracts wealth and good luck. The reason it is called the money plant is because of its leaves resembling coins. Put e one in the wealth and prosperity corner of your house!

Happy Planting & Gardening!

Ellie Lavender
Certified Feng Shui Practitioner
Interior Designer

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