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Controlling
people believe they know best due to deeply rooted insecurities, a need to feel
adequate, and a lack of self-awareness or exposure to diverse perspectives.
Their need for control often stems from fear, anxiety, or an inflated sense of
self-importance, leading them to believe that imposing their will is for
others' own good.
Additionally,
for many controlling people, the desire to dictate situations and other
people's actions is a coping mechanism for their own internal fears and
anxieties. By controlling their environment and the people within it, they
create a false sense of security and predictability.
Here's
how to quickly deal with controlling people, focusing on immediate and clear
actions:
Limit
the information shared. The less a controlling person knows, the less leverage
they have.
Keep
composure. Controlling people often want an emotional reaction. By remaining
calm, their tactics are disarmed and it's demonstrated that you are detached.
Walk
away to preserve your own physical and emotional health. It's incredibly hard
to emotionally and physically detach from controlling family members,
especially when you live with them. The best approach is to manage the
situation by detaching yourself to the best of your ability.
As
a reminder. Yes, there's a strong connection, with two main links: clutter can
cause feelings of being out of control, as a disorganized environment increases
stress and anxiety, making it harder to manage daily life. Conversely, a desire
for control can lead to hoarding and clutter, where people may accumulate
possessions as a way to feel secure or manage perceived threats.
In
summary, to maintain your emotional well-being, concentrate on what is within
your control - your own life. An effective method for this is to declutter your
own matters and detach from the responsibilities and behaviors of others, a
practice that is challenging but achievable.
In
essence, Choose Peace of Mind.
Ellie Lavender
Certified
Feng Shui Practitioner
Green Interior Designer
Decluttering & Organizing Expert
Lavender Design + Cuisine
